Ability to withstand criticism is essential when repositioning yourself.

The ability to withstand criticism and not be devastated by it is probably an outcome of successful individuation. As you will notice; when you become determined to change your situation, not everyone is going to be comfortable with your move. There are those who will always wish you to stay in perpetual deprivation. There are those who will always cherish seeing you down trodden and abase. There are those whose discussions are fuelled by the subject of how much grief you are in, They don't want to see you  change. If your financial situation is dire and you are known to be the one to call for a short loan, a week before pay day; they will not celebrate to hear that you have made a bold decision. A decision to reposition yourself.
Criticism per se is not a problem. Constructive criticism is welcome. But it is your ability to withstand negative criticism that will make you succeed when you have geared yourself to reposition you. I get a lot of emails and comments that are amazingly encouraging and positive. These are the very comments that keep me blogging for you here. I also get negative emails.
 How do you deal with the criticism? The first obvious reaction is to defend or at worst to lash back.  Criticism can be hurtful. It can sometimes spur us to do better. It can also be an opportunity to improve.

Ability to withstand criticism is essential when repositioning yourself.

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Make yourself accountable to some while you reposition yourself.

Having managed to withstand criticism whilst repositioning yourself,  the next crucial stage is to make yourself accountable to someone. Its often not enough to be accountable to yourself. No man is an island . There is great advantage in the synergy between two people. You can achieve a lot more by pulling resources together and supporting each other. Two heads and hearts can be greater than one. You increase your chances of achieving your goals dramatically by enlisting someone to hold you accountable.
So as you set about to change your situation; you need to get support of someone- perhaps a friend, family member, workmate or even a life coach. This person will act as a constant reminder to you of who you want to be and what you want to achieve. You need someone who will stand by you through thick and thin, someone you can trust to support you, hold you to your commitments and keep you in track.

Make yourself accountable to some while you reposition yourself.

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Ability to withstand criticism

Welcome back to my blog. I have been undergoing some changes myself. I have been in limbo since October 2010. It sometimes requires that you reflect on how the changes you are doing are manifesting themselves. Since October 2010, I am delighted to tell you that I am on target to reposition myself.I am hopeful that those who have been following my postings have managed to start implementing the changes we have been discussing.  These changes are:
a) Commitment to change
b) Discipline
c) Willingness to change


Criticism is defined as disapproval expressed by pointing out faults or shortcomings. No body likes to be criticised, but its a fact of life. To be able to respond to criticism with nobility and detachment is an important life skill, which few of us have. If you respond to criticism without careful consideration, it can easily lead to unnecessary suffering.Criticism can be positive or negative.It all depends on motive and how it is delivered. While  criticism in itself is not bad, it becomes a hindrance when it is used to point out that the process of repositioning yourself is not good. As you undergo this process, you are bound to meet people who will discourage you through criticism. It is your ability to withstand unjustified and misdirected criticism. 
My experience is that as you reposition yourself, you will meet especially friends and family members who will criticize you just to be mean and condescending due to their own insecurities and failure to change. Usually destructive criticism is prompted by:

• Jealousy
• Fear
• Intimidation
• Ignorance
• Insensitivity
• Perfectionism
• Egocentricity
• Prejudice
• Self-centeredness

When a criticism is delivered to you improperly, the natural tendency is to react, defend, or attack. Here are some tips that can help you to react appropriately.

• Remain quiet. Restrain yourself and let the person complete their criticism.
  
• Evaluate the source of the criticism. Quickly determine the motive. Ask yourself "Is this person trying to help me or attack me?" Trust your instincts!
  
• If the person is trying to attack you, don't empower them by reacting angrily. They will quickly know how much they affected you. Ignore them and walk away. Remember you have the choice to accept or reject a criticism. When you can reject it, the person doing the attacking feels deflated or defeated. When you retaliate they feel vindicated.
  
• If you decide the criticism is constructive but was not delivered properly then the best way to approach it is by saying "I get the feeling you are trying to give me some constructive criticism. I want to clearly understand what you are saying so can you say it again please?" This allows the critic to realize that you do want to learn something from what they have to say. They will then attempt to reword the criticism so you can get the full meaning.
• And most of all work to improve your emotional strength. This gives you resilience against any attack. Build your self-esteem and self-confidence.

As you will agree with me, not everyone will want to see you prospering in any field of your life. Especially if you have been struggling to break the bondage cause by your situation.

 So be resolute, sustain the momentum and remain focus, lest undue criticism will destruct you from your agenda.

Ability to withstand criticism

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Willingness is the key to changing your situation

Earlier on, I wrote about  what is needed in order to reposition yourself. Repositioning yourself is about changing the way you do things in order to get a better outcome. This can be:

• financial,- Bad credit
• social, - you want to lose weight. stop drinking.
• spiritual-you are back sliding, you want to uplift your spirit
• Relationship- stuck in a rotten relationship, 

It may even be an addiction or anything that you are so dearly determined to alter. The process of repositioning yourself demands a lot of willingness. Willingness to change is a strength.Willingness to change is courage and courage is simply the willingness to be afraid and act anyway. 

I will be going into details of how you can reposition yourself  financially, socially, spiritual and in your relationships and even your business.

Kareem Abdul-Jabbar, an American basketball legend once said:......"I think that the good and the great are only separated by the willingness to sacrifice". Whenever change happens, there is bound to be some form of pain. Be it physical or emotional. It is only if you are willing to go through the pain of the process that you start to make in-roads toward changing your situation. You need to be willing to go through the process of rejection, being blamed, being seen as someone abnormal. As long as you are committed  and disciplined.

• If you are stuck in a dead end job, you must be willing to look for another one. Take action action. Start applying for a new job, start your own business, go back to school to learn new skills, give up free time to dedicate to addressing your issues.
• If you are stuck in a rotten relationship ( and you have done everything possible to revive it);you must be willing to move on.
• If you are stuck in a bad financial situation (falling behind all your repayments, credit cards companies knowing your phone number as if its their own), you must be willing to get out of the situation.
• If you want to learn another language; start attending classes, look for new friends who speak the language

Whatever it takes to start changing. Do it. Willingness is the answer. However,  I want to make it clear to you, willingness is not a one-time- decision or  action (unless you are doing a one off event). Life changes require an determinations to continuously be willing to commit yourself. It is a process, and like any process, it is on going.

I sign off by saying: where the willingness is great; difficulties cannot be great. So start today. Persist and be willing to change. Its all in your control.

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Willingness is the key to changing your situation

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Discipline is key to repositioning yourself.

As I said in my previous post, in order to start repositioning yourself, you need to  Commitment. Discipline follows closely. Discipline is the refining fire by which talent becomes ability. Its therefore your ability to be disciplined throughout your repositioning process. Discipline will help you so that you do not get distracted. If you lack discipline you are surely bound to fail. Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment. Once you set your goal, do not let anything divert your attention. I am speaking from experience.

 During my early days in business, I found myself getting easily distracted by situations. I remember; way back in 2006; when I had just started my mobile phone business (Phonex Mobile Services). As I was setting up and trying to find my feet; business was picking up slowly. One close friend of mine said to me....."you are wasting your time, there are too many people doing this kind of business in this small town". I began to look around, and surely I started seeing that there were too many people in the mobile phone business. What I had forgotten is that when I started in the business in 2004, there were as many businesses. My friend then put forward an idea that was to make me quick money.  Galaxy Lifestyles Ltd was supposed to make me treble my £1900.00 investment in just  one month. As I write today  (4 years down the line) ; I am still waiting. Had I been committed and disciplined, I could have used the £1900.00 to build my mobile phone business. I learnt the hard way and I don't want you to go through the same issues. Always focus on what is at hand. Unless you win a lottery ( whose chance is 1 in 14 000 000); anyone who tells you that money can be made quick will be lying to you.

Zig Ziglar  taught me that :...." It was character that got us out of bed, commitment that moved us into action and disciple that enabled us to follow through.

Contrary to my belief, discipline is a skill. It can be learnt like any other skill.

I have learnt that in order to succeed with discipline, the following is required:

• Avoid acting on impulse
• Continue to work on a project; even if the initial enthusiasm has faded away
• Overcome laziness and procrastination
• Meditate regularly
•  Fulfil promises you make to yourself and others
• Start reading books, and read a book to the end
• Learn to have enough sleep

After reading this post, do not do nothing. Start the process of changing your situation. No one else but yourself can make you change. 

Discipline is key to repositioning yourself.

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Commitment to changing your situation

In my last posting I talked about repositioning yourself. I stated that there is a need to commit if you want to change.Whilst ideas, dreams and goals  have a valuable place in your life, they are only as good as your commitment to achieve them. The most important single factor to individual success in changing your situation is commitment. To commit is to pledge yourself to a certain purpose or line of conduct; in this case- to Reposition yourself. It also means to practice what you have set yourself to do consistently.Commitment ignites action. Start taking the steps required to turn your ideas into reality. There are two fundamental conditions for commitment:

1. Having a sound set of beliefs/goals-There is a famous saying -"stand for something or you will fall for anything". If you fail to have a sound set of beliefs, you will end up just falling for anything that comes your way. Whilst you are committed, you also need to be flexible in your approach as Tom Robbins once said- "Stay committed to your decisions, but stay focussed in your approach".  It is of no use to stay committed to a cause that is not sound. By sound I mean the belief needs to be beneficial to the reasons why you want to change. Identify the belief. Many people that I know believe that their financial position is not where they think it needs to be. They then believe that if they improve their financial control, then they may get out of the position they so hate to be. Unless commitments are made, there are only promises and hope; but no plans.
2. Faithful adherence to those beliefs/ goals- This is faithful persistence with a belief or goal. One thing that I have seen separating achievers and non-achievers in any field of life; is the ability to stick to a set of beliefs or goals. Once you identify your beliefs/goals; stick to them. Do not try to jump from one belief/goal to another before accomplishing the first one. It is only those that stay committed to their goals that manage to achieve them. There is truth in the saying ---"rolling stone gathers no moss".

The quality of a person's life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavour.  You are the author of your own life. It is therefore incumbent upon you to determine what in life you need to change, be it financial, spiritual or social. In the process of repositioning yourself, you will meet challenges. You will meet opposition; especially from those close to you.You will meet people who will discourage you, giving you the belief that you can not make it. 

It is my challenge to you today: Identify what you want to change in your life. Go with me through the process of change. Follow the guidance that I have personally tried and tested and have been proven to work. What is needed is commitment to change and unbound energy to change your life for good.There are only two options regarding commitment. You are either in or out. There's no such thing as a life in between. James Womack once said ..."Commitment unlocks the doors of imagination, allows vision and gives us the "right stuff" to turn our dreams into reality"

Commitment to changing your situation

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Reposition Yourself

Are you optimising your potential in life and work? Has life kicked you around to the point that you do not know where to look for help? Life is like a game of chess. It needs strategic thinking, advance thinking, moving one pony at a time in order not to weaken the defense. Have you faced the life's setbacks and feel your energy drained? On this site you will find resources that will help you change your life. I will share information that will uplift you and reposition you, PROVIDED you are prepared to go through the whole process and follow the various tips and guides posted here.

 It is human nature to want more of everything. You want to improve your love life, your financial position, your spiritual position,  your health and well-being, your business and even your social standing. This change  will not  just happen.
You need to do things differently for your current position to change. Repositioning yourself is a process. There are principles, practices and actions of which if you follow them, you will see your life changing for the better.
In  order to reposition yourself you will need the following

• Commitment
•  Discipline
• Willingness
• Ability to withstand criticism
• Ability to make yourself accountable to someone whilst undergoing change.

 In my coming series I will be covering these and many topics in detail.
Change will always happen, whether you want it or not. Change will happen, whether positive or negative. The direction of change will depend on choices you will make and on your determination.  

Reposition Yourself

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